3 Different Types of Bondage You Can Try

A lot of people have bondage fantasies. They want to pin their partner to the bed or be the one tied up and feeling helpless. It can seem like you need a lot of special skills and kinky toys to even try bondage, but that’s not necessarily the case.

Here are three ways to explore this fun kink with your partner.

Easy Bondage

By “easy bondage” we mean bondage that doesn’t require any special skill, extra training, or a lot of extra details. This is the type of kinky fun with handcuffs, silk ties, and under-the-bed restraints. As long as you have the money to buy your bondage gear and a place to use it, you’re good to go.

This form of bondage lends itself well to people who just want to get to the kinky sex. From trying out roleplay fantasies to spicing up your sex life, the right toys let you focus on the play and pleasure as soon as possible. You have more options than you realize:

• Fuzzy handcuffs
• Bondage tape
• Under-the-bed restraints
• Clip and restrain hogties and straps

Spend some time browsing your options and thinking about the kind of kinky bondage you want to try. Also, think about where you’ll do this. Beds with no headboard or without rails work best with free-standing items like bondage tape or under-the-bed restraints. If you’ve got railing in your bedroom, handcuffs and anything with a clip usually works well.

Rope Bondage

Rope bondage can be as simple as buying several feet of rope or as extensive as learning the beautiful art of Shibari. Either way, you need to have enough rope to bind your partner and a knowledge of how to tie at least a basic knot. Thankfully, the internet is filled with videos and books that will show you how to tie up your partner with rope. Many BDSM clubs and dungeons offer workshops and demonstrations, too.

The reason rope bondage isn’t classified as “easy” isn’t because it’s difficult to tie a knot. It’s because you need to think about how to kink safely considering everything from the materials you use to how to quickly release a partner in an emergency. Like what? The list below is just the beginning:

• Cotton rope without a core is best for rope bondage newbies.
• Don’t choose twine or thin rope or string as this can cause real damage and injury to your partner.
• Communicate with your partner to make sure they don’t feel tingly and their extremities aren’t cold or falling asleep. This could be an indication of circulation being cut off. (For the record, this is also true if you buy your “easy” bondage gear, too.)
• Always keep scissors nearby so you can quickly cut a partner out in a safety situation.
• Don’t try rope suspension without the right equipment and plenty of training.

Practice tying knots on a pillow or some other inanimate object first. Once you’re comfortable with how to work with the rope, you can practice ties on yourself. After that, move onto a willing partner but don’t go straight to the sexy stuff. Practice on them in a more controlled, less sexual way first.

No Equipment Bondage

No equipment bondage is actually what it sounds like. You don’t use any equipment. In a sexy way, you (or your partner) might pin the other down on the bed or hold onto their wrists, trapping their arms by their side or above their head. That’s a super-easy way to try out bondage with no commitment and in the safest way possible. With a quick release of your hands, they’re free. It also offers the most flexibility if you want to do more than a little bondage while you’re getting it on.

Another form of bondage that doesn’t require equipment is called “honor bondage.” This form of play is found in kinky power exchanges, like dominance and submission. The submissive is told to hold their body in a specific position or they might be told, “Don’t move.” Staying in place just on the command of their partner is a type of self-bondage. They could move, but they won’t until told they can. It requires no equipment and no physical movement from one partner, but it does require consent, so don’t try it until you talk about it. Of course, that’s true of any form of bondage.

Conclusion

Bondage can be as intricate (and expensive) as you want it to be, and it can be as easy as pinning your partner down. No matter your budget or experience level, there’s a way to explore your kinky fantasies. The most important thing is to communicate with your partner, understand the risks, and take your time learning how your gear works before jumping into the fun.