5 Ways to Get Kinky with Your Fleshlight
For a lot of guys, using a Fleshlight is a solo experience. Something you do when you’re single or when your partner isn’t around for any fun between the sheets. And that’s true, it is! But there are so many ways to play with your favorite stroker, including getting kinky.
We’ve got a few tips to get you started whether you play alone or with a kinky partner.
Denial Fantasy
Turned on at the thought of being denied an orgasm? Can’t stop thinking about being brought to the edge and then told, “Stop!”? The pain is excruciating and you feel powerless over your own body. Orgasm denial, with or without edging, is a big fantasy among guys who want to try out a submissive role with a partner (real or imagined). And it’s possible for your Fleshlight to have a part in the fun.
Use your Fleshlight to bring yourself to the edge of an orgasm. When you get close, stop. Take a breath, Wait a moment. Now start again. Each time you’re close to exploding, stop yourself. Whether you explode in a big orgasm at the end or force yourself to stop completely is up to you (or your partner).
Forced Orgasm Fantasy
Maybe your kinky fantasy goes the other way. You don’t want to be denied getting off. You want the orgasm forced out of you — quickly, painfully, or over and over again. Your Fleshlight might not be enough by itself for this fantasy. Think about the stimulation you really enjoy and what sends you over the edge in an orgasm. It might be anal stimulation with a prostate massager. Maybe you use a vibrator against your balls.
Stroke yourself with your Fleshlight. Consider using a penis pump to make your erection more sensitive before you start. Apply additional stimulation while you masturbate wherever it feels best to you. Move your hand faster than usual and/or turn up any vibration stimulation. When you’re tempted to slow down or stop because the sensations are overwhelming, keep going.
Pain and Pleasure
One person’s kinky pain is another person’s hard limit. Like all kinky fun, there’s no single right way to play. You might get a spanking or flogging while you masturbate. Maybe you wear nipple clamps as you use your Fleshlight. Pick the pain that turns you on and enjoy those sensations while you get yourself off.
Using pain and pleasure together is about overwhelming your senses. Your Fleshlight provides very specific stimulation. Pleasurable pain offers another kind. Your brain won’t know what to focus on or how to process everything you feel. For people who enjoy it, pain and pleasure cause bigger orgasms and a lot more satisfaction.
Erotic Humiliation
Being turned on because you’re embarrassed, humiliated, or degraded by a partner isn’t for everyone. For some people, being called names or being “forced” (consensually) to ask for permission for basic things is embarrassing. Others might have role play fantasies of humiliating moments that make them want to cringe (even as they make you rock hard).
Your Fleshlight can play a part in these erotic humiliation fantasies. Maybe you masturbate until your partner “catches” you and calls you names for not being able to control your urges. Your partner might laugh at you while you masturbate for them. They might “punish” you by taking away your Fleshlight because you’ve been naughty. If a fantasy turns you on and mortifies you at the same time, you might want to explore it more.
Add Electrostimulation
Want to add an extra jolt to your next orgasm? Try erotic electroplay. It doesn’t have to be painful at all, unless you want it to be. But you’ll definitely give yourself an additional sensory experience. Make it kinkier by letting your partner control some aspect of the moment — either the electricity or how you use your Fleshlight.
Apply electrode pads for a TENS unit on the erogenous zones of your body — thighs, chest, pelvis, or wherever feels good to you. Turn on the unit and turn it up to a level that you enjoy. Now stroke yourself with the Fleshlight while the electrical pulses move through your body.
Conclusion
There’s no single way to get kinky with any sex toy, even a Fleshlight. It’s about exploring what turns you on, your fantasies, and your partner’s willingness to try it with you. But even if you’re single, you can enjoy this kind of kinky fun during masturbation. Use your imagination, your Fleshlight, and another other toys you need to make the experience as sexy and knky as possible.
