7 Toys to Include in Your First BDSM Toy Bag
BDSM is a four-for-six acronym that encompases bondage and discipline (B&D,) dominance and submission (D&S,) and sadism and masochism (S&M.) It includes many different activities, from rope bondage to spanking and hot wax play to power exchange.
If you’re just starting out, it can be difficult to know what to include in your BDSM toy bag. That’s why we’ve put together a list of toy bag essentials for new players, with a focus on versatile and accessible toys that will help you start fulfilling your fantasies without spending a fortune.
Non-Rope Bondage Restraints
Rope bondage is popular for good reason, but it also requires practice and education to get good at it. We encourage you to explore if that’s your thing, but perhaps you just want to restrain your partner quickly.
If that’s the case, there are nearly endless restraint options you can explore. Check out the Lux Fetish Deluxe Hogtie set or an under-the-bed system like the Porn Hub 8 Point. You’ll have your captive bound and helpless in no time!
Collar
A collar can mean many different things. Some people see it as a serious symbol of commitment in a BDSM relationship, while others view it as simply a tool for play. You must decide what a collar means to you and your partner if you use one!
When you’re putting together your first toy bag, we recommend a practical and versatile collar like the Easy Toys Faux Leather Collar, which also comes with a detachable leash.
Nipple Clamps
Everyone, regardless of gender and body type, can enjoy nipple clamps. They squeeze the nipples, delivering pleasurable pinching pain while also making the area extra sensitive. Beware, though: they hurt more coming off than going on!
For a basic set of nipple clamps, we like the Shots Ouch Adjustable Clamps. You can also get fun and decorative clamps such as the Sex and Mischief Feathered Clamps, magnetic clamps like the Master Series Magnum Magnetic Orbs, and even vibrating clamps like the Fetish Fantasy Series Vibrating Nipple Clamps.
A Powerful Vibrator
Yes, the humble vibrator has a place in your BDSM toy bag! A powerful vibe can be used for all kinds of kinky purposes. You can tease and pleasure your submissive while they’re in bondage, edge and deny them, or reward them for good behavior.
The Magic Wand by Vibratex is known as the Cadillac of vibrators for good reason. Check out the Magic Wand Plus, a rechargeable edition of the famous massager with a body-safe silicone head. If smaller toys are more your thing, we love the ultra-powerful Exposed Nocturnal bullet vibrator from Blush Novelties.
Flogger
If you’re interested in impact play (hitting someone or getting hit for sexual purposes,) a soft flogger is a great place to start. You can tickle and tease with it, or deliver a powerful thwack.
Just remember to read up on safe places to hit before you start. In general, the upper back, butt, and thighs are all safe. Avoid bony areas, joints, the kidneys, and the head and face.
We love the Rouge Leather Flogger with Wooden Handle. If faux leather is more your thing, the Spartacus Faux Leather floggers is a great choice for a beginner.
Blindfold
When you remove one sense, the others heighten. That’s why touch feels so intense when you can’t see! A blindfold is a fun and safe way to play with sensory deprivation and power – your helpless submissive won’t know what you’re going to do to them next.
The Erotic Toy Company Satin Fantasy Blindfold is a great starting point and super affordable. Want to get a little more serious? The Entice Blackout Eyemask will keep any light from getting in and stop the wearer from peeking. You can also get beautiful decorative blindfolds such as the Steamy Shades Eyelash Lace Eyemask.
Pinwheel
A pinwheel (official name Wartenberg Wheel) is a metal wheel of small spikes that you run over the skin. They are not intended to pierce the skin, but the sensation they provide is intense and can range from sensual to painful depending on where – and how hard – you apply it!
Remember, safety first. Never use your Wartenberg Wheel on the face, and exercise caution on sensitive areas like joints, chests, and genitals. If you do accidentally draw blood, sterilize the area completely and do not use that pinwheel on anyone else in the future.
The Rouge Stainless Steel Single Pinwheel is a great all-purpose option.
Conclusion
BDSM is inherently personal so not all of the toys listed here will appeal to you. That’s okay! Think about the sensations you want to give and receive, what your partner wants, and pick the things that suit you best.