How to Choose the Perfect-for-You Vibrator

Buying a vibrator can feel like a game of chance. Everything sounds and looks good, but you may have more bad experiences than good ones if you’re not careful. The perfect vibrator is out there, waiting for you to buy it. But you’ll need to do a little work to find it. The easiest way to do that is to think about what you like and want and what you don’t.

Ask yourself these questions to find the perfect vibrator for you!

What Stimulation Do You Like?

If you’ve never used a vibrator before, think about what you enjoy when you masturbate. And if you haven’t masturbated in a while, take some time for self-pleasure. In the name of research, of course.

• Do you prefer clitoral action? If so, do you like a lot of sensation or just a little?
• Are you a G-spot kind of person?
• Would you prefer both internal and external (clit and G-spot) action?

For those who use vibrators but you’re still looking for the perfect one, what kind of vibrations have you enjoy the most? Deep rumblings, buzzy vibrations, or sonic or air pressure? Alternatively, what didn’t you enjoy about previous vibrators? This information will help you move forward and narrow down your options.

How Often Will You Use Your Vibrator?

Whether you use a vibrator all the time or every once in awhile, there’s no right answer to the question, but it might help you pick a type to look at.

Batteries: If you plan to be a heavy user, look for a rechargeable option. It’ll cost more upfront, but it will save you time and money because you won’t need to replace batteries all the time. Always keep plenty of batteries on-hand? Pick a vibrator that needs a couple of AA or AAA and pop in fresh batteries if your toy sits longer than a few months with no use.

Warranty: Vibrators that will see heavy use will wear out. A higher-end luxury vibrator with a one or two-year warranty might be worth the added expense if you get a little extra protection in return.

Do You Want Something Simple or Do You Like High-Tech?

Some people love a one-button sex toy that you turn on and use without thinking about it much. Others want features — as many as possible, maybe with a mobile app to customize the experience even more. There’s no right answer here.

But if you prefer simple and straightforward and then buy a complicated vibrator that requires an in-depth understanding of the user manual, you may be disappointed. On the other hand, if you want tons of features, you may hate the three-setting vibe you bought on a whim. Don’t apologize for what you like, just look for a vibrator that gives you what you want.

Is This a Solo Vibrator or a Couples Toy?

We’re big fans of buying multiple types of sex toys and starting a collection (because of course, we are). But when you only intend to buy one vibrator, you need to think about how you’ll use it. Any sex toy can be used solo or with a partner, but how you plan to use it may determine the style you choose.

• Do you want something both of you feel? Or does it only matter if you feel the vibrations?
• Will you only use this alone? What will hit your sensitive spots best?
• If you’re holding it, look for something comfortable. If your partner wears it, think about their comfort.

How Much Do You Want to Spend?

Once you’ve narrowed down your options based on the other questions, it’s time to consider the price. The more features you choose, the more you’ll pay, but there’s a range of price across all types of vibrators. Price determines most sex toy buying choices, and that’s okay. Thankfully many manufacturers offer decent options at nearly any price point.

Set a budget and stay within it. Just realize that sometimes you get what you pay for. But if a vibrator doesn’t tick all your other boxes, you may feel like you overpaid or you got a cheap toy. So yes, price matters, but make sure whatever you buy will give you as much pleasure as possible.

Conclusion

When a vibrator doesn’t work for you, the problem isn’t with you, it’s the vibrator. Instead of trying dud after dud, wondering why you don’t like it, spend a little time before you buy, thinking about what the perfect-for-you vibrator might be. Then go look for that and don’t settle for anything less than what you want.