How to Choose Your New Favorite Dildo

Buying a new dildo is supposed to be fun and exciting, especially once you start thinking about how you’re going to enjoy it later. But if you’ve ever been disappointed by a sex toy that didn’t work for you, you know it’s not always easy to find a new favorite.

Before you buy your next dildo, check out these tips and increase your chances of buying something that hits all your hot spots and does everything you want it to.

Think About Size

Dildos are made and sold in a range of sizes from extremely thin and small to big, fat monsters designed to fill you completely. Within that range you can find average sizes and even extremely small dongs. So what size do you want?

• If you’re trying pegging or other anal play for the first time, start with something small until your body adjusts.
• When you’re new to vaginal penetration, consider an “average” dildo in the five to six inch range.
• Are you a size queen or king who only wants the biggest? You can find dildos up to 15 or 16 inches long.

Once you start playing with dildos, you may find that you only like certain sizes or you may buy multiple sizes for different kinds of sexual pleasure.

Choose the Right Material

Not all sex toys are made from the same material, including dildos. Some are made of rubber or jelly materials while others are made of firm or soft silicone and even glass and metal. The right material for your dildo depends on how you want to play and what feels good against your skin.

• Silicone, metal, and glass dildos can be easily cleaned and sterilized. The harder the material, the firmer it feels in and against your body.
• Rubber, jelly, and “realistic” materials are designed to feel as much like the real thing as possible. They cannot be sterilized, though. If you plan to share with a partner, it’s a good idea to cover it with a condom.

These softer materials can also start to smell over time, and they must be stored carefully. While silicone, metal, and glass dildos can be stored almost anywhere.

Pick a Dildo Style

Style sounds like a weird way to describe your dildo, but the shape, curve, direction, and look of your dildo makes a big difference in what you feel. You may also want it to work in specific circumstances so you’ll need certain features.

• Curved dildos tend to hit g-spots and prostates more easily, depending on how you’re playing with it.
• Short and fat dildos penetrate less than long, thinner dildos. While the thinner, longer dildo won’t stretch you as much, it will, obviously, go deeper.
• Suction cups let you mount your dildo to any flat, dry surface so you can play in different ways — with penetration or blowjobs.
• Dildos with balls offer more realism though some people prefer just the shaft.

Many dildos will have some or all of the features and styles. It’s simply a matter of shopping around and looking for what you want.

Playing Alone or With a Partner

How you plan on using your dildo can determine what kind you want to buy. If you masturbate alone and pull out your dildos to enjoy with a partner, you can definitely use the same toy for both, but you can also shop around to find what works for each situation.

• Strapless strap-on dildos penetrate both you and a partner.
• Fisting and extreme dildos allow you to experiment with larger sizes.
• Smaller dildos are good for new types of penetration, like anal.
• Suction cups make using a dildo by yourself easier.
• Glass dildos are fun by themselves, but they can also be used for temperature play (hot or cold) with a willing partner.

There is no single right way to use a dildo, but if think about what you want to do with it, and how you’ll play with it, it’s easier to find the right one for you.

Conclusion

Shopping for a sex toy, whether a dildo or anything else, doesn’t have to be intimidating. You only need to think about what you want to do and how you intend to play. You may find one dildo that can do everything you want or you may decide you need a dildo collection to get everything you want. Taking the time to shop around and find a dildo with the features you need and want means you’re more likely to buy a new favorite instead of a disappointing dud.

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