How to Get Kinky with Dildos
Anything can be kinky, including how you play with dildos and other sex toys. There are so many ways to get kinky that all you need is a willingness to get creative and to communicate your needs with your partner.
Whether you like pain, power, or new experiences, here are a few ways to kink up your favorite dildo.
Strapon Power Play
Not all strapon sex is part of kinky play, but it can be if you want it to be. From pegging and anal penetration to vaginal sex, using your dildo to dick down a partner doesn’t have to be vanilla. You can add a bit of dominance and submission fun to the mix.
How? Talk to your partner about it, and if they’re into, try some dirty talk like, “Beg for my dick” or “You’ll take every inch I give you.” You can play with rough sex or you can be a sadistic tease and make your partner wait for the D while “torturing” them with pleasure.
Begging for Cock
Cock worship is a kinky game where one partner lavishes all their attention, affection, and tongue-action on the other partner’s peen. It’s a form of power play in kink that involves sucking one partner off in such a way that you know how much they love the dick.
Even if you don’t have a penis of your own, you can use a dildo for this kind of play. It might be part of a humiliation kink, too. You might do it to let your partner “earn” more sex and kinky fun later. There are all kinds of reasons to engage in cock worship, and you don’t need your cock to do it.
Showing Off How You Ride
Exhibitionism and voyeurism exist beyond the kink world, but they’re very common in BDSM spaces. There’s something about watching or being watched that gets some people very excited. You don’t have to go out in public to show off. You can do this at home with your favorite dildo.
Again, this can be part of dominance and submission play or even a humiliation kink. The point is for one partner to ride their dildo and show the other how good they can move on it. The watching partner might even challenge the “rider” to put on a good show. In this case, a dildo with a strong suction cup base and access to a flat space will be necessary.
Fun with Temperature
Not all kinky play is about power or pain. It’s also about creating new and different sensations. One way to do that is through temperature play. How can you use a dildo to play with temperature? Easy, if you own a glass dildo.
Glass dildos are great for a lot of reasons including their ability to get and stay cold or hot, depending on where you place them. Put the glass in the refrigerator, it cools off. Hold it under hot water or next to an electric blanket, and it warms up. Now insert that dildo into your body or run it along your skin. The sensation of an extreme (but still safe) temperature will change your entire experience with it.
Spanked and F*cked
Spankings are a gateway kink for a lot of people. It’s super simple to do because all you need is a willing butt and a bare hand. So how does a dildo fit into this? Better than you realize, if you (or your partner) want to have your senses overwhelmed. Remember, this can be done vaginally or anally, based on penetration preferences, so it’s an option for almost anyone.
A lot of fun in kink comes from competing sensations. It’s one reason why pain gets mixed with pleasure so often. In this case, a partner (you or them) receives both the sensation of being dicked down with a dildo while they feel sharp smacks against their bottom. The mind becomes overwhelmed in a good way, and many people find they have more pleasure as a result.
Conclusion
If an activity feels kinky to you, it is. No one else has to think it’s kinky for it to be valid, so if simply using your dildo with a partner feels “out there,” go for it. But if you’ve dabbled in a few sexual fantasies and a bit of BDSM fun, remember simple toys like dildos can play a part in your fun. Once you get comfortable with one toy, it’ll be easier to find ways to kink up your other toys, too!