How to Make Valentine’s Day Kinky for Both of You
A lot of people build Valentine’s Day up to be one of the most important holidays of the year. They determine how strong their relationship is or how much they’re loved by how well this one day of the year goes. But if you show your partner how much you care about them all year long, it can turn into just another day. Which isn’t a bad thing!
That doesn’t mean you can’t make Valentine’s Day something special every year, regardless of how strong your relationship is, especially if you and your partner have a few kinky fantasies you can’t stop thinking about.
Check out a few ways you can kink up the holiday of love!
Screw the Roses
There’s a very famous BDSM book that many kinksters read called Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Philip Miller and Molly Devon. While the book is about sadism and masochism, feel free to take the advice in the title. Skip the roses this year, and give your partner the kinky fantasy they crave. Maybe it’s a bit of pleasurable pain, or maybe it’s a loss of control in the bedroom — or both! The easiest way to let them know what you want to do is to give them a kinky toy that makes your intention clear.
Before you both get naked or go out, hand over their Valentine’s Day gift. Give them a restraint kit for their bondage fantasies. Wrap up a blindfold and ball gag for a sexy moment of deprivation. Show off the new paddle you want to use with them. Give them a remote control vibrator and let them know exactly how you want to enjoy it with them.
Plan a Kinky Night In
Instead of dinner and a movie where you’re waiting in lines with other hangry couples, plan a kinky night in. If you gave your Valentine a kinky gift (see above), you already have the perfect reason to cancel your dinner plans. Even if you already have plenty of kinky toys and gear, the gift is in the experience you’re both about to have.
Indulge in your kinkiest fantasies. Maybe it’s an intense spanking. It could be a sensual massage but with the lack of control thanks to a pair of handcuffs. When you’re done, you can always order delivery and eat naked which can lead to even more kinky fun for dessert.
Make Your Kinky Fun Semi-Public
If going out is important to you both, bring your kink with you but keep it discreet. Remote control sex toys are perfect for this. Vibrating panties, butt plugs, cock rings, Ben Wa balls — if it buzzes and can work from a remote, it’s fair game.
One of you controls the remote while the other “wears” the sex toy. Make it a game to see how long they can keep a straight face. Find out if your partner can hold back their orgasm. Can they order their dinner on the brink of orgasmic pleasure without the server realizing something weird is going on? It’s all a kinky good time, and when you get home, the fun can really begin.
Play With Power
Kinky fun can be about sensation, experiences, and, above all, power. Even if you’re not into any sexy fun, you can kink up your Valentine’s Day by playing with power and control in your relationship. Which of you has the fantasy of being in control and which wants to relinquish it? Pick a side and plan some fun.
Maybe the person in control gets to order dinner for the other. Maybe the one out of control isn’t allowed to speak without permission. You can do things for and to each other all night that stick within whatever power dynamics you agree upon before you start. If it turns you both on, keep it going through the night until you’re ready to get naked together, too.
Conclusion
You don’t need a special occasion like Valentine’s Day to get your kink on. These ideas work at any time of the year. But if you want to mark the holiday in a special way, it might be time to put those kinky fantasies to the test. Always talk to your partner first to make sure you’re both willing and consent to the fun you’re about to have. Beyond that, let your desires and your imagination lead the way.